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The relationship life area is not an easy area of life to navigate through. For those that are currently enjoying a happy relationship great for you! It's wonderful to go through life with a supportive, loving partner.

For those who are in an unfortunately bad relationship, it's time to let it go and change your circumstances and happiness level in life. If you feel you dont deserve better, then I would suggest counseling.

For those of you who have no romantic relationship look at yourself and your life and think hard on why it is you may be single.

If you are a believer in the law of attraction, then it may be on a subconscious level that you are attracting a certain 'type' of mate. This person is a mirror of yourself and has entered your life for a purpose. The purpose may be to reveal what it is you may need to work on within yourself. Take time to reflect on this and see what common trait your partners have in common.

 Maybe you want to be single. Maybe you have a fear of commitment or a fear of the unknown. Maybe you are emotionally unavailable. Or maybe it's just not the right timing in your life for you to be with someone.

God brings two perfectly-matched people together when they are BOTH ready.


What would make men and women a lot more happier is to simply find someone they feel is most compatible with themselves, being fundamentally alike yet maintaining differences, and just being okay with coexisting.

When you yourself have figured out who you are and have acquired that true sense of self, then you can pursue trying to find a partner to SHARE your life with, not someone to MAKE your life.

Don't try to find someone who meets ALL your expectations, you'll only be setting yourself up for disappointments down the road.

Realize that everyone has one or many faults and issues that you may have to deal with. 

Issues can range from life situations to mental and emotional problems, bad habits, previous baggage of any kind. The list is endless!

If you feel you can't deal with any those issues from the other person, then accept it's time to move on and close that chapter for good. You deserve to have what you want, without SETTLING!

No one can attain perfection in one lifetime- or many lifetimes, but you can come close. You can try to be the best at whatever it is you want to accomplish. You can give as well as receive, and that's what balance is all about.

Maybe you haven't found the person, but refuse to settle for less. Adopt the mentality that "I rather be alone than unhappy."

Accept someone who treats you right, meets most of your standards and preferences, and will provide you with what you NEED - which is true love, affection, appreciation, respect, and loyalty.

If men and women both live up to this principle, only then will we all be happier with each other and have 'figured it out'.

Moving on from a failed/failing relationship can be difficult. But ask yourself why should you stay in an uncomfortable situation just because it's "what you know or are used to"?

Life is all about opening new doors and leaving toxic people and bad situations alone so you can pursue your happiness.. Ask yourself "how is this working for me?" If the answer isn’t positive, then it's time to leave.

We've all been in that place where we just can't seem to say "ex to the next" that easily, but to those who are and want to make a failed relationship work, then I do believe in second chances and giving it your all to make it happen once you're getting that input from the other party.

Breaking up is hard to do and making up can seem wonderful; but, it's short lived most of the time. I give it 6 months before things get back to the way it used to be, and you'll find yourself miserable and full of disappointments because you thought the outcome would be different.

It takes two to make a relationship work out and it takes constant compromise. If you find yourself to be the root of the problem, then you know you have the power to change the circumstances that are keeping your relationship in the ground, it all begins with you.

There is no magical fairy that'll fix or solve life's problems for you. And if you believe that things will just work themselves out, you're in for a rude awakening!

Ms.Lynette R. Holloway wrote an article about the process involved in a breakup:

"How do you pick up the pieces after an emotional blow? Fact is, the act of breaking up is a process thats as old as time. But each person goes through a breakup, whether it’s a spouse or gf/bf, it still feels like the first time, and people think they are never going to get over it.

The good news is that you have healed from past hurts, and you will heal from this one. The human spirit is resilient.

The key is to take time out for yourself to recover. Resist the urge to spend hours lying on the couch, overeating and watching movies that may give you revenge ideas. Get busy and do things that will help you combat stress and depression- such as working out, etc. Reconnect with family & friends. Guys shouldn’t move onto the next girlfriend until emotionally ready. Take a hiatus/break because if you don’t you'll only be adding to the dysfunction.

The joy of a new relationship is fleeting because the newness wears off and the mistakes from the past are often repeated. When you don’t learn the lesson, the repercussions are more painful with each experience. In the end, you'd be hurting and confusing the new mate because you are emotionally unavailable.

You may then wonder why you continue to encounter the same type of men/women and problems.

The best way to avoid this pattern is to GRIEVE the loss of a relationship in the same way that you would mourn the death of a loved one. There are stages of loss that many people don’t realize they must experience in order to move on.
  • Denial- you don’t believe or want to believe this is it, truly over, so you wait for the phone to ring.
  • Anger and/or depression- it's usually one or the other. work on the anger because it'll release the depression
  • Pain- once you start releasing the depression, you'll feel pain and sadness. THIS IS NORMAL!
  • Guilt- Don’t kick yourself because you missed or overlooked the red flags that went up in the course of your relationship. Everyone makes mistakes, key is to LEARN from them.
  • Bargain- this is the stage when people try to get back together with the person and patch things up.
  • Acceptance- when you accept that it's over, you are ready to move on.
IMPORTANT: The phases can be thrown off course if you return to your ex in ANY fashion, whether talking on the phone or hanging out with them in any way (with a group of friends, casual sex).

In order to get through it and get to the other side, YOU MUST GRIEVE! You cannot hold on to the person and grieve.

Don't waste energy hating or resenting any ex, simply because it destroys YOU inside. Pent up aggressive, negative feelings damages the spirit and is a cancer that poisons your mind and in turn does harm to the body, especially your liver.

Self-love does not allow you to give power to anyone, especially an ex who is undeserving of any part of you.

Letting out your emotions in a constructive way is critical to your well-being and health. Whether that be to cry or talk it out. Emotional Freedom Techniques are a wonderful and effective way to release  emotions.  Even simplisticly ripping a piece of paper while verbally stating the problem will aid in that necessary emotional release.

We all need to learn to let go of unnecessary people in our lives that may hold our progress back of self growth and new experiences.

Balance is the key to maintaining a happy, content, enriched life.

Some of us for various environmental and/or biological reasons may not be equipped to be so emotionally strong. For this, I would suggest seeking professional help and medication for the chemical deficiencies that may be detrimentally effecting you.

For the rest, find a release or outlet. Sports, martial arts, anything artistic such as music or creating visual arts. I also recommend seeking out a life coach, counseling, or utilizing my Spiritual Counseling/EFT service to help promote that emotional release which is the culprit for most of  societal problems.

Everyone has a past. The past does not determine your  future. Let go of guilt and regret and change your circumstances TODAY!

-Authored by Tessa  LaRose, Founder of Enercure Health Solutions